Wednesday, September 30, 2009

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My sweet, darling cousin R lost his newlywed wife on Sunday in a tragic accident. They had been married a mere 6 months and were so very much in love. She was a beautiful girl that brought him more joy than he had ever known. They had just purchased their first home together. She was to be 20 years old on October 4th.
This tragedy has devastated our entire family, but obviously it has crushed R. He blames himself, and he wants his wife back. The poor boy is a widower at the age of 24.
Why am I telling you this? I guess my question is this...is it worth it? Some of you may think I'm jaded...and truly, I am...I admit it. But to see the pain he is in...I just can't fathom it. The old question remains...is it better to have loved and lost, or never to have loved at all?
Of course it is worth it though...she was the light of his life, if only for a short time. She brought him happiness, she brought him a true, undying love. Does that love simply go away now that she has passed? No, he will carry it with him forever more. He will hurt for a long while, but eventually the pain will ease. He will most likely move on, get remarried some day, have a family...but he will never forget his sweet Molly and the beautiful year they shared.
I'm honestly not sure why I'm posting this, other than to put it out there. To remind everyone how fragile life is, and how quickly it can be taken away. Let your loved ones know how much they mean to you. Don't assume that they already know...they probably DO already know, but if tragedy were to strike in your family wouldn't you want to know that you had let that loved one know just how much you cared?
R.I.P Molly girl, you were truly loved!
I promise to give an update on The Artist soon...
Until next time, much love!
~T

5 comments:

That One Mom said...

How very tragic. I was widowed at 23, and while my husband and I were experiencing turmoil in our marriage, it was still very hard. I can only imagine how badly your cousin is hurting. My prayers are with him.

Katie said...

I'm so sorry! I can't imagine dealing with something like that at such a young age.

In other news, I'm glad you're blogging again :)

Divorced Mommy said...

Wow, to experience something so tragic like that at such a young age... I can't even imagine. My heart goes out to your family. In my opinion I do think that it is better to have loved and lost than to not have loved at all. He'll cherish those memories forever.

Mike said...

Very sad to hear. I remember when my nephew lost his wife. They were both in their 20's.

Kristen K. said...

That's very sad to hear. My mother went through a similar situation with my dad. Just found out she was pregnant and had just gotten engaged and he was gone within a few months. At least they had found each other. Many people don't have that.