My sweet, darling cousin R lost his newlywed wife on Sunday in a tragic accident. They had been married a mere 6 months and were so very much in love. She was a beautiful girl that brought him more joy than he had ever known. They had just purchased their first home together. She was to be 20 years old on October 4th.
This tragedy has devastated our entire family, but obviously it has crushed R. He blames himself, and he wants his wife back. The poor boy is a widower at the age of 24.
Why am I telling you this? I guess my question is this...is it worth it? Some of you may think I'm jaded...and truly, I am...I admit it. But to see the pain he is in...I just can't fathom it. The old question remains...is it better to have loved and lost, or never to have loved at all?
Of course it is worth it though...she was the light of his life, if only for a short time. She brought him happiness, she brought him a true, undying love. Does that love simply go away now that she has passed? No, he will carry it with him forever more. He will hurt for a long while, but eventually the pain will ease. He will most likely move on, get remarried some day, have a family...but he will never forget his sweet Molly and the beautiful year they shared.
I'm honestly not sure why I'm posting this, other than to put it out there. To remind everyone how fragile life is, and how quickly it can be taken away. Let your loved ones know how much they mean to you. Don't assume that they already know...they probably DO already know, but if tragedy were to strike in your family wouldn't you want to know that you had let that loved one know just how much you cared?
R.I.P Molly girl, you were truly loved!
I promise to give an update on The Artist soon...
Until next time, much love!
~T
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I really have no idea how to even BEGIN to create a glossary while still keeping this blog entirely anonymous, but I can at least spell out the acronyms and link to the posts that give details about said man. That work?
Glossary (in no particular order)
The Artist--Older brother's best friend. Known him since I was 5. The love of my teenage life.
The BM--The best man from A's wedding--super chill guy, lots of fun to be around, but no real chemistry.....yet. ;)
The DJ--Dated when I was 18, remained friends, dated again for a year after my divorce--draaaaaaaaama
FB--Funeral Boy--YB's best friend..met in passing a few times while dating YB, exchanged numbers at YB's mother's funeral and the rest is yet to be seen.
JGG--Jolly Green Giant--Was a good friend for about a year before we dated in the spring of 2008--He's slightly insane but I still love him to death
Jiggity Jiggity J--Friend from high school who I had lost contact with until he randomly showed up in my AmHer class (fall semester, 2008)
The Jock--JGG's roomie and a very dear friend
LDB--Little Drummer Boy (The Ex Husband)
Lexus--Dated VERY briefly (in other words a total of 3 dates, 1 of which was cancelled) in the winter of 2007
Shortness--Cousin's ex roomie
TGTBT--Too Good To Be True--Awww, the name says it all--went to high school together and reunited through the wonders of facebook in the summer of 2008
YB--Young Buck--Dated very briefly in 2007
Glossary (in no particular order)
The Artist--Older brother's best friend. Known him since I was 5. The love of my teenage life.
The BM--The best man from A's wedding--super chill guy, lots of fun to be around, but no real chemistry.....yet. ;)
The DJ--Dated when I was 18, remained friends, dated again for a year after my divorce--draaaaaaaaama
FB--Funeral Boy--YB's best friend..met in passing a few times while dating YB, exchanged numbers at YB's mother's funeral and the rest is yet to be seen.
JGG--Jolly Green Giant--Was a good friend for about a year before we dated in the spring of 2008--He's slightly insane but I still love him to death
Jiggity Jiggity J--Friend from high school who I had lost contact with until he randomly showed up in my AmHer class (fall semester, 2008)
The Jock--JGG's roomie and a very dear friend
LDB--Little Drummer Boy (The Ex Husband)
Lexus--Dated VERY briefly (in other words a total of 3 dates, 1 of which was cancelled) in the winter of 2007
Shortness--Cousin's ex roomie
TGTBT--Too Good To Be True--Awww, the name says it all--went to high school together and reunited through the wonders of facebook in the summer of 2008
YB--Young Buck--Dated very briefly in 2007
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5 comments:
How very tragic. I was widowed at 23, and while my husband and I were experiencing turmoil in our marriage, it was still very hard. I can only imagine how badly your cousin is hurting. My prayers are with him.
I'm so sorry! I can't imagine dealing with something like that at such a young age.
In other news, I'm glad you're blogging again :)
Wow, to experience something so tragic like that at such a young age... I can't even imagine. My heart goes out to your family. In my opinion I do think that it is better to have loved and lost than to not have loved at all. He'll cherish those memories forever.
Very sad to hear. I remember when my nephew lost his wife. They were both in their 20's.
That's very sad to hear. My mother went through a similar situation with my dad. Just found out she was pregnant and had just gotten engaged and he was gone within a few months. At least they had found each other. Many people don't have that.
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